Geek Chicks/ Social Skills
sbrilliant's post brought up an interesting thing that is often assumed about hard core geeks which I think transcends gender; that geeks have no social skills. She noted that she CAN deal with people, but chooses not to. I personally can sympathize with this, and know other people who can as well. I have worked customer-service type jobs before, including face-to-face ones, and not always technical support. I find if I put the effort forth is really not terribly hard to deal smoothly with people, guess what they are thinking/feeling and try to accommodate them accordingly. It is really not all that difficult even, I find, to be disgustingly adept at this. The thing is, I can barely stand to do so, because this is a big waste of time and effort that would be unnecessary if people would simply expend a small amount of effort to behave rather more rationally. Granted, I would be a lot better off in this world if I made more of an effort to 'get along' but it's disappointing that so many allow thinking to be subject to emotion rather than the other way around This also relates to the comments here about the amount of flamage online: it's not generally personal but rather a way of kicking around various viewpoints. ...not that it does not sometimes get out of hand, but overall it is just discussion.